Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Commitment and Responsibility

When you came into this life you made a commitment to your spirit/soul that you would take care of this gift you were being given – the gift of an outer shell, a body. The moment you were born, it became your responsibility.

The first few years, the actual care giving came from your parents, or those souls you chose to be born to. There was a reason for coming to them, one that only your spirit knows, but this is a conversation for another time. Today, we need to talk about your commitment and responsibility to yourself.

After those first years, you were able to feed yourself, make choices on what you like to eat, what you like to drink, how hard to play or not play, how hard to study, and the things that you love to do with your free time.

As adults, we have to work to support ourselves, which takes away from play time, then add on responsibilities to our homes, our families, friends, etc.

Every one of us has talked of losing weight, and to exercise more. To renew that commitment we made of taking care of the outer shell. When did it come time to stop being responsible for our own bodies? When did we stop being committed to our soul that we would take care of this gift?

I, along with hundreds of others have gone from one diet to the next, one intention after the other, of trying to lose weight, of exercising for one half hour of our day, only to blow it off after a few days, weeks or months.

This is a life-long commitment! It isn’t something that can be started then dropped because it slips our mind, or we become bored with it, or because it’s too hard. Life is hard. Are you going to just give up on yourself?

Your success in eliminating the excess pounds you carry on your own personal “gift” is only going to become a success when you take responsibility for your own actions.
I want you to think of this as a marriage. In a marriage, you have to learn to live with someone else, for better or worse, sickness and in health, to learn to give and take, be respectful, loving, caring and giving. To love, honor and cherish this other part of you. You want this union to work.

Your “gift” and your inner soul have to work together. Your inner self has to talk to the outer self (and here, I’m including your brain) to make your marriage work to the best of your capabilities.

When you walk away from the commitment of shedding excess weight – taking off the “fur coat” after a winter of hibernation, you are walking away from the responsibility of communicating. Why? Is it too hard to work on that communication, to solve the problems (which will from now on be known as challenges) that have you keeping your “fur coat” on and adding more layers?

If you can’t openly talk about these challenges, then write them down, journal out your thoughts and fears of why you continue to eat and wear that “coat”. Let’s figure out those challenges and eliminate them from your life by replacing them with the positive wants and desires that you do have.

You made a commitment to this union – this marriage of soul and physical body. Now, are you ready to renew your vows to love, honor and cherish yourself, to work on the challenges of keeping this union whole? The alternative is to divorce, but now, that’s really not much of an alternative, is it.

Namaste,
Sue