The shadow aspect of our archetype are self-evident. But when we recognize the victim in us, it can be an amazing help to us, in regards to warning us when we may be in danger of allowing ourselves to be victimized. Watch your behavior when it runs from one end of the gamut to the next, in other words, you are very passive to being rash and exhibiting inappropriate actions.
Have you ever done something then realized you just victimized someone else for personal gain? Or perhaps you intended to do so.
Do you continue to play the part of the Victim because of the positive feedback you receive through sympathy or pity?
It's important that you start to recognize these inappropriate attitudes in yourself and others, you can change your attitude and walk away from someone elses. You don't need to encourage their "victim" behaviors and attitudes.
The shadow aspect of any archetype is just like any other person you have to get along with, Sometimes you must work out a compromise, or you have to resist them, or shower them with love. These actions are all determined by the situation at hand. Your shadow will turn on you with hostility only when you ignore it or misunderstand them.
The shadow aspects of any archetype is fed by our relationship with power. Last week I told you that the Victim archetype feels as if he has no power, no choices and has become helpless, without any hope,
Whether it's empowerment or disempowerment, we are all intimidated by this feeling. Disempowerment threatens our ability to survive.
You're wondering why we are intimidated by being empowered, aren't you? The shadow aspect is basically unexplored power. When your shadow behavior emerges, it often sabotages the picture you carry of yourself and your desires of who you believe you are. Do you ever find yourself behaving or doing something that you have no idea why you did it? It is so out of character for you. Or perhaps you have a fear that you have to cope with and no explainable reason for that fear.
Can you recognize a moment in your life when you realized that you held a lot of power? Perhaps in grade school or high school? Did you take that heady feeling and use it to perhaps bully someone younger than you? Or did you use it to stand up to the bully and protect the one being harassed? This is just one example of a shadow aspect using power.
All of these different aspects of our personalities flow through our behaviors, pulling one over on our conscious minds, then these various aspects assume a dominate role in our personality.
Once you become emotionally and intellectually aware that you are harming another, you must hold yourself responsible and you must also admit that you made a conscious choice to be negative.
Something that is important for you to remember is when your mind and heart do not communicate clearly, you will be confused about what you are to do with your life.
Besides emotional and intellectual responsibility, there is spiritual responsibility. This is when you've recognized that negative behaviors, which include judging yourself, cause harm not just to you but to others as well. You must evaluate your behavior/attitude as son as you see that you are being judgemental.
Judging others and creating excuses for yourself and your actions, in other words being aware of your behavior/attitudes and taking responsibility for them plays an active part with your health. Anger and guilt is toxic to our body and spirit. If you are unaware of your behaviors the toxic poisons of this negative behavior would not be so pronounced. But once you do realize, accept and take responsibility for your actions, and you continue on with this behavior, you need to be aware of the consequences of continuing to allow this toxicity to build in your mind and body and the havoc it will play on your health.
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